Category Archives: Pregnancy is a PUBLIC endeavor

Wanting to do it perfectly

Nichi is a doula and every time she witnessed another woman’s pregnancy or childbirth experience, she was busy creating an encyclopedia in her head. She’d think, “Note to self, don’t let this happen or make sure that you take care of yourself so you can avoid this or that.” Since she assumed she’d be pregnant again in…

THINGS PEOPLE SHOULD KNOW: #3. Don’t tell me how to feel!

As you’re pregnant and you’re dealing with a whole new view of your world and are, at times, struggling to keep up with your ever-changing thoughts and emotions; what you don’t need is for others to tell you how you should feel! Pregnant women have been told… “Don’t worry about it. Women have been doing…

No one knows what it’s like to be the pregnant you

Unfortunately, no one knows what it’s like to be you, the pregnant you, in this moment. Even those who have experienced many pregnancies don’t know. (In fact, I’ve heard it said that the more data points we have, the less we actually know.) What this means is that it rests on your shoulders to let…

Look for what resonates for you

Look for what resonates for you. When others share their advice, when you read books, or when you see information online, do your best to disregard what doesn’t feel good to you. Did you like this? Share it:Tweet

When to share with others that you’re pregnant?

Some people share with everyone that they’re pregnant right when they first learn it. There’s no stopping them from sharing the information. The thought of keeping it to themselves for the first trimester – or any amount of time – never occurs to them. How could they be related to people when they are keeping…

Feeling revered

Molly shared with me how she felt revered as a pregnant woman. I love how she remembers and appreciates that feeling. Molly says that she could feel people sending her, sharing with her, positive energy. People offered her a seat on the bus, helped with her groceries – she didn’t always accept, and she felt…

How much to share

Some women share everything about their pregnancy experience. They feel comfortable to tell all: how they’re feeling physically and emotionally, how many times a day the baby kicks, when and how their belly button popped, their new pant size, what commercials now make them cry, everything! I find myself having 2 immediate reactions to these…

I miss being automatically noticed as special…

When you’re in your later stages of pregnancy, everyone automatically knows about something special going on in your life…your pregnancy! It’s pretty obvious. And, I thought that was nice. People commented on it, you got to talk about yourself and your baby, what was going on, what you were looking forward to. It was a…