Category Archives: Making choices that work for YOU

Share your experience…especially when you don’t feel like sharing

I coach and encourage expectant moms to do only what works for them during their pregnancies. This is the core focus of the work that I do. That being said, there are some general suggestions that I make. One is that you share with others about what you’re experiencing…especially when you don’t feel like sharing. …

Are pregnant women wimpy, bitchy, or outrageously inspiring?

Some women, when they become pregnant, are concerned about how others will view them as a pregnant woman. The truth is that the reactions that people have to pregnant women represent a wide range. Some people, unfortunately, may think that pregnant women are wimpy, overly dramatic, and operating at 75% work capacity. Others whole-heartedly believe…

What she didn’t know was how it would feel to be pregnant herself

When Tamara got pregnant, she was a Registered Nurse with extensive experience working with expectant moms and infants. She had done her clinicals with a midwifery practice, she had worked in pediatrics, and she had occasionally done shifts in the neonatal unit. And although she had this experience, when she got pregnant, she knew she…

The benefits of being vulnerable

From time to time I expound about the benefits of being vulnerable… about the potential relief, understanding, ideas, and/or sympathy that’s possible when you open yourself up in some way and share something that we often don’t. It’s a risk, certainly. And, I’ve heard many accounts of how it pays off. I want to tell…

Are you asking for what you need?

It can be tough to admit when we need to ask for something. It’s easy to think we’re not as together as we should be or that we’re a whiny or wimpy pregnant woman. Please, please let’s give ourselves the gift of gentle compassion and the permission to ask for what we need. It can…

Walking my talk

Shortly after I started writing my book (“Loving the Pregnant You” which is in the editing phase and WILL be published this summer), I got pregnant with my second child. This was such a gift for me on so many levels. Obviously, I was blessed with another child. And, as I continued to embark on…

Assuming I wasn’t going to be a nurturing mom

In my first pregnancy, I was terrified that I wasn’t going to be a nurturing mom. I was a type A personality bustling around, getting things done. There were times I needed to remind myself to stop and hug and make eye contact with my husband who just walked in the door, rather than continuing…

Thanking yourself…when others don’t or can’t

As a mom, you take care of a great many things. You hopefully get “Thank You”s from your children, your significant other, other moms, and/or your children’s teachers from time to time. And, regardless of whether you feel appropriately thanked and appreciated by others, I think the simple fact is that no one is ever…

What pregnancy books do you recommend?

The other day a dear friend asked me what pregnancy books (besides my forthcoming one) that I recommended. I didn’t have a “go to” list for her. Depending on what kind of experience you want to have and what kind of information most interests you and soothes you, the books you’d most enjoy might differ….

Setting aside what we know

When Michelle got pregnant, it seemed as if every woman she’d ever known who’d been pregnant had experienced back pain – or at least some back discomfort – in the third trimester. So, she figured that she was destined to have some problems with her back. It felt inevitable to her. The only questions seemed…