Category Archives: Pregnancy is a PUBLIC endeavor

When to tell others the BIG news!

Every woman has a different thoughts and rationale about when she’ll share the news that she’s pregnant. Many don’t want to start telling others until after the likelihood of miscarriage is down to a really low probability because they think it’s a jinx or they worry about the possibility of having to tell all the people in…

A pregnant body CAN be an athletic body

Anita had always been an athlete. She was known in all her different circles as a fit, athletic person. Even people she’d meet for the first time would comment that she looked like she was in great shape or really strong. She’d get an occasional, “Wow, I think you could take my husband!” Anita enjoyed…

You agree that your pregnancy choices are YOURS to make…or do you??

You may agree with the idea that you, and only you, need to be fully comfortable with and understand the choices that you make regarding your pregnancy. And sometimes you may agree…only in theory. In reality, you might be dealing with people who question decisions you’ve made, who tell you about why another course of…

Tell me after I deliver

What felt good to Georgia was to know that she got to create her own experience of pregnancy and delivery – especially delivery. When she was pregnant she noticed that many women wanted to tell her their labor and delivery stories. Georgia decided that she didn’t want to hear them! She didn’t want to “take…

Share your experience…especially when you don’t feel like sharing

I coach and encourage expectant moms to do only what works for them during their pregnancies. This is the core focus of the work that I do. That being said, there are some general suggestions that I make. One is that you share with others about what you’re experiencing…especially when you don’t feel like sharing. …

Declaring who you want to be

It can be easy to look to others for affirmation and obsessively wonder if others think you’ve made the “right” choices. If you could set aside their opinions (or what you think are their opinions), how would you want to think and feel about your pregnancy? How would you choose to BE during your pregnancy?…

Feeling more vulnerable…because you’re pregnant

When I was eight and a half months along during my second pregnancy, my car was broken into and my computer bag was stolen. I believed I felt more violated about this act because I was pregnant. It was a little hard for me to articulate exactly why I believed that. Some of it was…

Are pregnant women wimpy, bitchy, or outrageously inspiring?

Some women, when they become pregnant, are concerned about how others will view them as a pregnant woman. The truth is that the reactions that people have to pregnant women represent a wide range. Some people, unfortunately, may think that pregnant women are wimpy, overly dramatic, and operating at 75% work capacity. Others whole-heartedly believe…

What she didn’t know was how it would feel to be pregnant herself

When Tamara got pregnant, she was a Registered Nurse with extensive experience working with expectant moms and infants. She had done her clinicals with a midwifery practice, she had worked in pediatrics, and she had occasionally done shifts in the neonatal unit. And although she had this experience, when she got pregnant, she knew she…

The benefits of being vulnerable

From time to time I expound about the benefits of being vulnerable… about the potential relief, understanding, ideas, and/or sympathy that’s possible when you open yourself up in some way and share something that we often don’t. It’s a risk, certainly. And, I’ve heard many accounts of how it pays off. I want to tell…