When it comes to the choices that we make around pregnancy and child birth, we are talking about choices that are very personal to the women and partners that make them. Often people are extremely passionate about their choices and why they’ve made them.
I’ve spoken with women who have felt judged simply because they did or did not find out the gender of their unborn child. I mean to the point that people in their lives were mad at them saying, How dare you? You should know! You should let it be a surprise!
So, you can imagine how the conversation can steam up when we start talking about whether to give birth in a hospital versus at home, whether to schedule an induction or wait to go into labor naturally, whether to get an epidural or be drug-free… you get the idea!
We’re passionate and we should be. These are important choices.
And, how do we honor each others’ choices? How do we get to a place where we can accept that this choice worked for her and a completely different kind of choice worked for her?
Lisa offers one perspective. She felt that because she was so comfortable with the choices that she made around her delivery that she could be there to fully support friends who made different kinds of choices. And, she notices that whenever she feels herself being judgmental or defensive, it’s an area where she is not entirely at peace with the choices she’s made.
Please join the conversation: How do you get to a place where you can be at peace with your choices and the divergent choices of the people around you?
