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I miss being automatically noticed as special…

When you’re in your later stages of pregnancy, everyone automatically knows about something special going on in your life…your pregnancy! It’s pretty obvious. And, I thought that was nice. People commented on it, you got to talk about yourself and your baby, what was going on, what you were looking forward to. It was a…

When I knew I was neurotic…

It was the second night in the hospital after my daughter, my eldest, was born. My husband had spent the night in the hospital the first night of her life and the second night, I sent him home to get a good night’s rest. He had just left and they were taking my daughter to…

I’m overdue!

Jake was “due” 3 days ago. It’s only 3 days and it feels like so much longer. Right now – and I don’t want to admit it – I feel sadness. I feel so many other emotions – overwhelm about the unknown of have 2 kids outside the womb, anxiety about how the birth process…

Do you make decisions with your head or your heart?

The book – Expect the Best while You’re Expecting – will suggest to expectant mothers that they pay attention to their thoughts and feelings as they make choices around their pregnancy and childbirth.  This is asking women to listen to their head and their heart.  How does that work? Did you like this? Share it:Tweet

What kind of support do you want?

There are increasingly more options out there for women who want to intentionally choose the type of people who will support her during her pregnancy and childbirth.  The initial options that come to mind include a doctor, a midwife, a doula and a birth partner.  And, there’s an infinite number of ways that you can…

Honoring each others’ choices

When it comes to the choices that we make around pregnancy and child birth, we are talking about choices that are very personal to the women and partners that make them.  Often people are extremely passionate about their choices and why they’ve made them. I’ve spoken with women who have felt judged simply because they…

Is it time to have a baby?

As you begin to look forward to your pregnancy, I encourage you to expect the best.  Do uncomfortable, unwanted things happen during women’s pregnancies?  Certainly.  Yet, if we focus on those uncomfortable and unwanted potential aspects of the experience, that is what we will attract. Expect the best and even when the unexpected or undesirable…

People say the darn-dest things!

It seems that people feel some sort of amazing freedom or audacity – I don’t know what it is – to say what they’d like to the pregnant women in their life. They provide unsolicited advice and simply say whatever occurs to them in the moment to say. It often doesn’t seem like there’s any…

What do we know the second time around?

When we become pregnant for the second time, we know all that we know about our first pregnancy.  We know how we felt about certain things, how we dealt with any concerns we had, what excited us, what we focused on, how it felt to be pregnant and how it was to deliver a baby.  We know what…

Transforming the conversation about pregnancy

I’m interested in transforming the conversation about pregnancy — from complaints and what’s wrong — to expecting the best, creating what you want and being present to the miracle!  As humans, it’s easy for us to fall into automatic patterns of conversation.  Some of the automatic patterned conversations that I hear about pregnancy include:  When…